Celebrating Resilience: How Birthday Wishes Supports Families’ Social-Emotional Wellness

Authored by

Jamie Rapfogel, LCSW
Director, Birthday Wishes Long Island Office

For families experiencing homelessness, life is often marked by instability, stress, and uncertainty. Basic needs like shelter and food understandably take precedence, leaving little room for the rituals and celebrations that foster joy, connection, and self-worth. Yet, it is precisely these moments of celebration that can play a crucial role in supporting the social-emotional wellness of children and their families.

Since 2002, Birthday Wishes has worked to bridge this gap, ensuring that every child, regardless of their circumstances, experiences the joy of a birthday celebration. By providing families with resources, encouragement, and support to mark these important milestones, we not only create moments of happiness but also lay a foundation for long-term emotional well-being.

The Power of Celebration in Overcoming Trauma

Research has shown that celebrations, even small ones, can have a profound impact on mental health. For children, birthdays represent an opportunity to feel valued and loved, which is essential for developing self-esteem and healthy self-confidence. In the context of homelessness, where many children face feelings of shame or invisibility, a birthday party becomes much more than just cake and balloons. It’s a reminder that they matter.

Studies indicate that positive childhood experiences, including celebrations, are linked to better long-term outcomes. According to research published in the journal Pediatrics, children with higher counts of positive experiences are more likely to develop resilience and experience improved mental health. Additionally, addressing Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) through positive interventions makes programs like Birthday Wishes crucial for fostering resilience in vulnerable populations.

Empowering Caregivers to Celebrate

A key component of our mission is empowering caregivers. We provide everything they need to host a meaningful celebration—party supplies, decorations, gifts, and more—and, perhaps most importantly, the reassurance that they can create a special day for their child even in the midst of challenging circumstances.

For caregivers, being able to throw a birthday party offers a sense of agency and pride. It’s an opportunity to express love and show their child just how much they are cherished, despite the obstacles they face. This can strengthen family bonds, restore a sense of normalcy, and contribute to a caregiver’s own sense of self-worth and resilience.

Building Community and Connection

Beyond the immediate family, our celebrations help restore a sense of community for families in shelter. Shared moments of joy can break down feelings of isolation and foster connections among residents. This communal aspect is particularly important for children, who benefit from seeing their peers celebrate milestones as well. It reinforces a sense of belonging and normalcy, reminding them that they are not alone in their experiences.

Looking Ahead

As we enter 2025, Birthday Wishes remains committed to expanding our reach and deepening our impact. Every celebration we facilitate is a testament to the resilience of the families we serve and the power of kindness to transform lives. Together, with the support of our shelter partners, donors, and volunteers, we continue to bring hope, joy, and healing to families experiencing homelessness.

By investing in these moments of celebration, we are investing in a brighter, healthier future for children and their families. Thank you for being part of this important work.